Relationship Threesomes…

If you are in a relationship; you should be in a threesome. This  seems totally weird… And no this has nothing to do with sex… But hear me out… I believe that relationships are between three people- your significant other, you, and yourself. Your s/o-The person you are dating, you- the s/o’s person they are dating, yourself- your longest and endless relationship also your most important relationship. Why is this? Because when two people have been dating for at least 6 months, they tend to get comfortable, you tend to stop working on yourself and you leave yourself out of the relationship and just focus on your s/o. The sweats cIMG_6708ome out and the cute yoga pants get put away. While it’s critical that you feel you can be yourself around your s/o, you should always try to be your best self. By “best self”I don’t mean, don’t have bad days and cake yourself in makeup, La Perla and cocktail dresses (while this is nice, we are not living in the Upper East side circa Gossip Girl). By best self, I mean don’t use this person as an emotional punching bag, don’t lounge in sweats all weekend and don’t stop trying to be better.  Always remember you are dating yourself first and wouldn’t you want to date the best person possible?
The best relationships are where the couple push each other to be better constantly and to keep achieving and dreaming- the true power couple. My boyfriend and I are both gym fanatics so days where I feel too lazy to go to the gym, he somehow gets me there and days where I can tell he doesn’t want to workout, Ill get him to the gym.. only because both of us know how important the gym is to one another. This can translate to work, diet, friendships anything. If you are willing to push one another, you will never fall behind or slack off in life. If you are not in the power couple relationship you are in the wrong relationship. Chances are you are with Mr Right Now and not Mr Right.

Keep it fresh-My boyfriend and I at least once a month do date night at a nice place. We have been dating for over a year now and he has seen me with glasses no makeup and sick countless times and I have seen him in basketball shorts and tanks pretty much every day; however, when we go out for date night I get extra dolled up and he gets dressed up. This feels like our first date every time and it’s truly magical and so important. So many couples get comfortable and feel like they can take each other for granted, this is a huge mistake.

If you are constantly working to be the best version of you and truly dating yourself meaning you are in tune with who you are, your goals, your dreams etc, then subsequently your s/o is getting the best version of yourself. If you are always growing and improving you will never get comfortable in your life and therefore you will never get comfortable in your relationship. You will always improve and as a result of that, so will your relationship.

No ownership-It is so important to realize that in relationships, you do not own the other person and they do not own you, it’s a full time job from which either can be fired at any time. Keep working hard and never give up or slack off. Keep things fresh and keep things exciting. Follow all of your dreams and passions and encourage your s/o to follow theirs.

If you are lucky enough to find your person, work to achieve the power couple relationship by both appreciating each other, pushing each other, and trying to be the best person you can be for each other and for yourself.

xx

JS

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